Adoption Journey

Revisions

….I’ve longed to be a mother for many years, and I’m very excited to be starting a family through open adoption. Open adoptions are based on mutual trust and respect between a birthmother and the adopting family she chooses for her baby. You can read about me, my family, friends, Read more…

By Rebecca, ago
Adoption Journey

Surrender with Hope

I hate this whole concept of acceptance.  I hate giving up.  And it’s been very, very hard for me to learn the difference between giving up trying, and gracefully surrendering to something you can’t control. Oh, hell.  Honestly, I still haven’t learned it.  I really, truly can’t usually tell the Read more…

By Rebecca, ago
Adoption Journey

Breathing Space

Kyler demonstrating his ninja-like meditating skills at Duke Gardens.  (Jaden also demonstrated her yoga skills, balancing in a lovely tree pose on a rock at the shallow end of the pond… uh oh…  fortunately the shallow end!  And fortunately it was a warm day and she dried off quick.) I’ve Read more…

By Rebecca, ago
Adoption Journey

On Children

On Children  ~ Kahlil Gibran Your children are not your children. They are the sons and daughters of Life’s longing for itself. They come through you but not from you, And though they are with you yet they belong not to you. You may give them your love but not Read more…

By Rebecca, ago
Adoption Journey

Children of our own

“Many Americans would die naked in the middle of the road before they’d tell you what’s hurt them most. But a born Southerner will show you the cell in their heart that burns the hardest. They’ll hold it out to you in their bare right hand.” ~Reynolds Price That’s what Read more…

By Rebecca, ago
Adoption Journey

waiting

This weekend I went to a whole-afternoon thing at the adoption agency on how to deal with the waiting.  The waiting has not been good for me.   I am seriously allergic to uncertainty, and I can feel that it’s taking a toll – on my physical health, on my emotional Read more…

By Rebecca, ago
Adoption Journey

Adoption Awareness Month (10)

Here is my family’s Thanksgiving tradition.  It’s been a while since I wrote about this – not since  2010! Our family recipe for Thanksgiving cranberry relish is basically just ground up cranberries, apples, and oranges, with sugar.  We made it every year, and inevitably a whole cranberry would get in.  Obviously that one Read more…

By Rebecca, ago
Adoption Journey

Adoption Awareness Month (6)

Sometimes people ask me how long I’ve been waiting, and I never know whether to say “18 months” or “all my life.” I didn’t blog about the early parts of my determined journey toward parenthood, because it was messy and weird and sad, and private. But I certainly talked about Read more…

By Rebecca, ago